There's a new fad going on over at Facebook, one that I kinda get, but not really. I'd say about 20-25% of my friend list have "liked" I would rather go to jail for spanking my kids, than for them to go because I don't.
Now, I'm a firm believer that spanking should be in a parent's tool kit/arsenal of parenting. In fact, my 7-yr old just got two spankings yesterday morning.
Now my version of spanking is miles apart from my parents. I was only spanked with a belt, and always by my father (the biggest/strongest person in the house). Once, I was actually "spanked" (I prefer whipped) so hard I had bruises on my legs for two weeks.
My spanking? Maximum of three swats to the butt-leg area with my open hand, just hard enough to get their attention and feel a bit of pain. I don't think Keith (the biggest/strongest person in the house) has EVER spanked either of our kids, and we most certainly have never used a belt or even a wooden spoon on our kids.
By "liking" this spanking attitude, you are glorifying spanking, and if you're hitting your child so hard that you're being sent to jail for it, no matter if it's discipline or not, you SHOULD go to jail! Likely, you've hit your child so hard that you've killed it. Because that's pretty much what it takes to send someone to jail for child abuse.
I get that people have knee-jerk reactions and like "liking" these simple attitudes, and that most people spank their children and are fighting those "peace loving hippies who think violence never solves anything" and telling people to stay out of their personal parenting style. I really get that! But, those "peace loving hippies" are actually right, and there are studies to back them up. Hitting your child teaches them that hitting other people is okay.
And really, the kids that have overly permissive parents don't go to jail, their rich daddies bail them out and pay lawyers thousands of dollars to keep their kids out of jail. The people in jail? They, most often, were the most hit children on their block.
I know that most of the people I know that have "liked" this spanking thing don't actually spank their children that much, and are probably very moderate and loving parents. I just wish they would think about the real message they're sending when they "like" shit like this.